Do Misunderstandings Result In A Need To Rescue A Relationship?
What are the major challenges that people have within their relationships?
It is quite likely that two people in a relationship have opposing opinions and it is this that can put a strain on them both.
I have no doubt this situation has happened to you. There are times when we do things that offend our partners unintentionally, believing we have done the right thing, or vice versa: our partners might do something to offend us.
Perhaps you have had a bad day or you are simply not feeling yourself but for some reason you react aggressively to something that is said. Your partner may well react in the same way: it takes discipline not to do so. In a very short time an argument ensues. I have certainly been in this position.
In reality nobody ever wins an argument and everyone loses.
You have an emotional argument. On this occasion you win and your partners strides away. You feel victorious but does this good feeling really last long? The answer is no. In the long term both parties suffer and you feel guilty.
Emotional discussions of this type are always counter-productive and frequently have a negative effect on your relationship.
That is not to say all discussions are to be avoided. Simply pause, consider and show respect for your partner’s point of view. The truth is you could get an alternative opinion that could be useful. The shared vision you gain may shed new light on the situation and provide a more effective solution.
It is never a good idea to be arrogant enough to believe you are always right. Of course there will always be someone who will tell you that you are right but you will always know the truth deep down. As the saying goes, ‘Thou shalt not fool thyself.’
Not long ago I was with an elderly couple who have been married for nearly 60 years. For some reason she lost her temper and criticized her husband in a way that could have been hurtful. The husband glanced at me, gave me a smile and let her continue her criticism. He voiced no reply against the accusations raised against him. Later on I heard his partner explaining her feelings to him and why she had felt the way she had. She was apologizing to him. It became clear to me why their marriage has lasted so long.
Of course you will say I have to defend my rights, don’t I? Perhaps, but be sure in doing so you do not pay too high a price. If you feel you have to make your point, do it in a respectful, sober and controlled manner.
Always remember what it was that made you love him or her in the first place. Understanding each other in this way will restore the love between you.
If you try to understand the position of your partner then you will both be richer for the experience. Otherwise, if you don’t, you will both end up having lost something important.
The situation is in your control to keep the love or lose your relationship.
There is only one choice to make: live with understanding or live with regret. Which one will you choose?
Keith Braithwaite is a generally nosey and opinionated guy but his heart is in the right place. After nearly thirty years in the corporate world and twenty keenly observing direct selling, he is now following interests in self-development, internet marketing and historical studies and is fascinated by human nature and behaviour.
Keith now likes to help people rescue a relationship from his site RescueARelationship.com
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